I fear I have been in error....

For about five years now, I've been expounding here - and other places - about the "$980+ million Federal Dollars California receives annually for its child support collection and case management efforts" - That figure is wrong, WAY wrong, and frankly, I'm not entirely sure how I came to have it as a benchmark; Not only am I extremely embarrassed, I humbly apologize, my bad!

A more accurate figure, based upon the statistics available (2002 - $40 million dollars in annual Federal subsidy) when AB 2240 was vetoed by then California Governor Gray Davis would have to account for inflation and other factors and I’m neither a mathematician nor economist, in fact right now, I‘m feeling like a bit of a nincompoop. Hey I fucked up, I admit it….However, the fact remains that the only Federally Funded study ever conducted on the subject of child support showed that when they are employed, men pay between 83% and 91% of all court ordered child support in the U.S. and that they pay without intervention of any kid. Couple that with today’s tremendous - and extremely rare - victory for Orange County, California resident Pedro Soto and one begins to understand the tremendous cash cow that Child Support Collection really is for Government, elected and appointed officials, and countless “agents” and representatives” in both the public and private sector.

Ho-Hum The Holidays will Come!

Obviously, I have been derelict inasmuch as I have not been consistently writing here.
I could go into - and on, and on - about how much worry, sorrow, grief, agitation, anger, and remorse I, as well as most of my family (largely, my wife) have passed through in the last nineteen months trying to get my youngest daughter to see some glimpse of the proverbial, and mostly mythical, light. Her exploits are a constant, ever present source of stress, concern, and apprehension for me, and for those who love and care about her. Mine are not words of whine, mind you, but of the harsh reality that comes with dealing with a young person, the abuse of whom at the hand(s) of her biological mother and former step-father, have left deep and profound scars from which my daughter may never recover; to say it has been heartbreaking might be a start of an explanation of where I‘ve been with all of this. The Licensed Family Counselor I took my daughter to weekly for twenty-one months, without fail, upon gaining primary physical custody, remains convinced that not only was my daughter subjected to horrific psychological abuse at the nasty mouth of her mother, but that something far darker “probably” occurred at the hand(s) of her former step-father or any of several other men who rolled in and out of my ex-wife’s households; thirty-four residence changes, nine different schools for my kid between second and fourth grades. You can only imagine my rage, and all the while, I’m begging with my daughter’s mother: “look, just give me my kid. I’ll keep paying you, just let me provide some stability and sameness“ To no avail.
The damage to my daughter was/is catastrophic and she became this angry, confused, defiant, detached, and frustrated teen; my ex-wife had created a person that not only she no longer wanted around, but was incapable of helping…Thank you, Family Law Court!
Much, if not all, of this dynamic, a dynamic that I and millions of fathers like me around the free world deal with each and every day, could've/can be avoided! But does anyone besides divorced Dads ever notice that these tragedies are never, EVER mentioned, discussed, or debated in the political arena? Why? Easy answer: Too much money is changing hands between Federal, State, and Local authorities, as well as Support Collection Agencies and Institutions for change to even be considered! No amount of “Hope” or rhetoric is going to change any of this dynamic either. Spending cuts and balanced budgets are again in the National news in the U.S. with the Presidential Election (among others) on the horizon. But until Voters are cognizant of the fact that Mom’s get the kids in divorce and custody cases over 90% of the time in the U.S. when juvenile children are involved, and that in concert with that figure, men pay all court ordered child support between 83 and 91% of the time when they are employed, and that they do so without intervention of any kind, nothing will change. The Federal Subsidy of States’ Child Support Collection and Case Management must cease! These efforts are the single largest tax payer rip-off in the Country and they’ve been in place for forty years! To understand the fiscal aspects of this, all one need understand is that over half of ALL Civil Litigation in the United States involves divorce and custody! Can YOU spell “growth industry”?

Not so fast, buster!!

So, I finally get down to the Credit Union to deposit my unemployment check, and guess what? Yup, overdrawn in my checking account! I was too late! {See previous two posts}

And the kicker is, the two relatively small checks that bounced giving me DSF fees were payable to my daughter's counselor; we receive zero support - of any kind - from my daughter's biological mother. Must make the brain-dead nincompoop very proud! To the cow in Pahrump: You truly are the nastiest of Deadbeat Moms!

Yippee!!

Don't mean to cop to a cliche' but what a difference a day makes; geezzuuss, how pathetic! I'm going to deposit my unemployment check this morning, and all I can think about is my oncologist saying: "you've got to keep your stress to an absolute minimum!" Wonder if I should tell the U.S. Post Master about that one(?)! {See previous post}

Between two adolescents in the household, and my woman, on the cusp of the proverbial "change of life" and my own private mishigas, well, I'm going to go deposit this rascal with great glee!

More later......Peace!

Geeezzzzuuusss!

Well, since 29 July, 2010 I've been enjoying the bliss of being among the ranks of the unemployed and am - for the time being - reliant (grateful its there) on unemployment until I can find something good to do; I've been on unemployment only once before in my working life (for about three months in 2004) and I've been working full time since 1977. I can certainly use a vacation but so far, this has been anything but! However, as Go Daddy says: "we're not here for a long time, we're here for a good time" and that articulation has long been an unspoken mantra of mine; now its time to make it happen for me and my family and make an enjoyable income a reality! As if it weren't bad enough to have to rely on State government to help me pay the bills, I must also rely on our beloved U.S. Mail to get the much-needed check to me, and in my part of the world, that hasn't been the reality. I've just come from our apartment mailbox for about the sixth time today (I am getting in shape going up and down three flights of stairs) and our "Mail lady" has finally shown up with my check that was supposed to arrive this past Saturday; its 5:22 in the evening! Our mail chick didn't get through putting the crap in all those boxes for another fifteen minutes! Are you kidding me? Does the stress show on my ugly face? (Stupid question) The closest affiliated branch of the Credit Union I bank with is twenty-five minutes away and closes at 6:00 PM; its now 5:37 PM. I really wouldn't complain except for two reasons: I worked in a service position most of my career and would certainly do a better job than this tired old girl. Second, we never see our mail before 4:00 PM! Am I being a whiner to gripe about such "service"? Sheeeesh! Anyway, I haven't been on here for far too long and I continue to do my best to raise the consciousness of journalists to the bias, persecutions, and outright "wrong" being done to fathers and their kids in this and other countries; the fight for Dads' Rights will be with me as long as I live. Today, among other things, I read about five more "delinquent" parents (Surprise! All fathers) who were jailed in Ohio for being in arrears in child support. Ever wonder why there aren't more women on these types of lists? Well, if you're interested, drop me a line and I can tell you why. These five men are scheduled to be arraigned September 13, 2010, and if they fail to appear, arrest warrants will be issued. But wait; I thought they'd already been arrested(?) Atrocious!

Tired.....

Well, I'm trying to get it back together so that I can post as frequently as I should.....Stay tuned!
DDP..................

Peace

Nowak-o

OK, so no surprise here, but outrage all around: On Tuesday 10 November, 2009, after pleading guilty to lesser charges former NASA Astronut, Lisa Nowak, walks out of court a free woman. Now let us not forget, this is the married chick with three kids of her own, who confronted her illicit lover’s “other woman” in an airport parking garage after driving a 1,000 miles from Houston to Orlando with diapers - both in supply and on her body - so she could make that drive non-stop. She also had in her possession latex gloves, a brand new Buck locking blade knife, rope, a small sledge hammer, and plastic trash bags. The bitch was sentenced to a mere year on probation. Probation! What if this sleep-around whore had been a man? Or even worse, an African American man?!
I dare say, whether white, black, Latino or any other race, a male would be in the slammer, period! And likewise, no man would have been given a cushy job at a space joint, that’s for damn sure! I understand NASA took "her wings" so she can no longer fly the Space Agency aircraft, but so what? She hasn't lost any pay, except to appear in court. This case smacks of what is known in our society as “The Lace Curtain” where women are treated differently than men are, particularly when it comes to crime and punishment. Women are only held to accountability standards that the media, academia, society at large, clergy and others see as “fitting” – The media reports Nowak as a "forty-six year old mother of three". Does that mean she still has custody of her kids, jointly or otherwise? Can someone answer that question for me, please?!
Because we all know, a father under the same circumstances certainly would have "Court Approved Monitored Visitation" at the minimum in a case like this. And lastly, why hasn’t anyone in the media asked how the little Nowak children are doing? Probably not, because they are safely in the hands of their Dad who is clearly the more stable of the two parents!
Such bullshit! And those of the ignorant, wonder why the country is sliding down the shitter.....
Peace……….
PS: She only pleaded guilty after an appeals court ruled all the hardware in her vehicle would be admissible. Slime bag!